We’re all longing to be seen and heard in a genuine, heartfelt way.
This is especially true if you’ve had a traumatic upbringing.
You’re used to hiding away,
and keeping your mouth shut,
for your own good,
a survival instinct.
Sometimes we don’t even know it, we just feel empty inside and have a feeling like something’s missing.
Until someone actually asks us a question about us, in a genuine and loving manner,
and the floodgates open.
Most of the time, people are listening to respond.
Meaning they are listening to solve the problems, to provide the solutions.
But what I know to be true is, often we have all the answers inside of us, we just need a safe space to express ourselves and be heard.
There is so much power in holding a safe space for someone to speak their truth.
Not to respond, to just listen.
It builds a deeper ability to trust and share, without the fear of judgement.
By becoming more mindful and active listeners, we help others know that they are seen too.
We show them they are worthy of our time, their voice is valid and they are worthy to be heard.
Listening to really hear what they are saying can help you see things from another perspective, and help you learn the art of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.
Are you listening to respond? Or
Are you listening to really hear?