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IMPOSTER SYNDROME

IMPOSTER SYNDROME

A lot of us experience this, but not a lot of us know the term – IMPOSTER SYNDROME. And when I say a lot of us, what I mean is that research shows that 70 percent of the population experiences impostor syndrome.

I like to describe impostor syndrome as the negative voice in our head that keep us from reaching our full potential and letting our light shine. In fact, its number one goal is to turn off our light. To keep us from making a positive impact in this world. 

Sometimes it tells us we’re not good enough, or that other people are already doing a better job at that than you, so what’s the point. Ouch!

I’ve held some really pivotal executive roles throughout my career, and believe me when I say I experienced imposter syndrome all too often. 

Some of the stories I kept telling myself;

  • You’re not smart enough, you left school at 15.
  • You were a runaway with no formal qualifications – you’re not going anywhere in life.
    You were a teen mum, what have you got to offer anyone, you’re damaged goods.
  • You’re a fraud, who the hell are you to be running a multi million dollar business.

I could go on for days with all the negative self talk that went on in my head.  Man, this was the story of my life, I kept waiting for someone to find out my background and tell me I was an imposter!

Man, this was the story of my life, I kept waiting for someone to find out my background and tell me I was an imposter!

What if I told you, there is a way to break through, that there is a way that you can actually change the narrative…

  • It’s a pattern in your thinking – It’s okay if you hear the “mean girls” in your head, because it’s just a story, a story you keep telling yourself.  The thing is, those negative feelings are always going to rise up, it’s a pattern in your thinking. 
  • Let the feelings rise up – It’s about letting the feelings rise up, acknowledging the feeling, and just doing it anyway.
    You are never going to stop the feelings from making a grand appearance, BUT you can let the feelings rise up and acknowledge that they are there.
  • Acknowledge that they are there – “You’re not good enough”, “what are you thinking”, “they are better than you”, “what have you got to offer”…..all lies that you are so used to telling yourself.
    Then say to yourself out loud – “thank you for that running commentary, but I’m not going to allow you to get the better of me, I’m not going to allow you to dictate to me anymore”
  • JUST DO IT – and then you just do it anyway, and it proves you CAN DO IT!  You already knew you were capable, you just needed a reminder!  
    And then you celebrate your wins!

My favourite thing to say to myself at the moment “Cool story bro, that’s all it is A STORY and you have the power to change the narrative!” and then I have a little laugh out loud to myself.

I also use this strategy with clients too…

If your friend was talking negative self talk about herself, what would you tell her? Now tell that to yourself!
Read books, listen to podcasts, do some meditation, all this will help you with changing that negative self talk into positive reinforcing messages.

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Remember you have the power to change the story you keep telling yourself. 

You CAN follow through on all the things that are destined to make you great. 

You CAN dream all the dreams that are destined to make you happy.

You’ve got this!

You are unique.

You are MORE than good enough.

You are strong, you are powerful.

You were created for a purpose.

You are capable of giving love and capable of receiving love.
You CAN and you WILL live the life you love.

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What Makes Coaching Work?

What Makes Coaching Work?

I’ve searched all over the internet to find a simple answer to what should be a simple question, but I have yet to find one that really sums it all up. So here’s my take on the subject.


Coaching is a special conversation, it gives clients the opportunity to think what they have not thought, say what they have not said, dream what they have not dreamt and create what they have not created.  Giving them the ability to maximise their professional and personal results.

The science behind coaching.

The brain can and does create new neural networks and pathways all the time, pruning ones that are no longer useful and strengthening ones that are often used.
By changing our thinking, we can change the neural pathways in the brain, creating new ways of seeing and interacting with the world. 
As coaches, we use tools and techniques that promote neuroplasticity. By thinking about our thinking (also called metacognition) we can create new feedback loops for deeply ingrained beliefs that trigger responses, which trigger feelings that lead into action or avoidance.


When clients tend to a way of thinking during the coaching process and choose new behaviours and practices often enough, new neural networks are formed, the landscape of the brain is changed, and once difficult practices now become easy habits.

Coaching is not telling people what to do,

but giving them a chance to examine what they are doing.

Positive Psychology.

Research into positive psychology, including emotional intelligence, and how the brain works have given us great insights into the ways we can support a human being to grow, to realise their potential and to create positive outcomes in their own lives. We now understand that by increasing our emotional awareness, deepening our thinking about our own thinking and focusing on what is serving us well by, utilising our strengths and interests, we can influence and even choose a better future.
From this research, coaches have a strong base to support their clients to heighten their awareness of themselves.

Observing or noticing the way the client thinks; their habits; their emotional responses (or lack of); acknowledging the clients’ own strengths and interests; and the dispositions they are applying to their lives that are serving them well; and those that are not serving them currently.

The quieter you become,

the more you can hear.

The “Right” Coach.
Human beings cannot resist the temptation to express their personality and reveal themselves.  The coaching conversation gives them the freedom and the opportunity to do so.


Having the right coach in your corner is integral to the success of coaching.  It allows you to see another perspective, be challenged in a powerful way, and ensure that growth occurs.  A good coach doesn’t let you off the hook, they will hold you accountable to be the best version of yourself and believe in your potential.
The coaches’ role is to heighten the awareness of the client, getting them to formulate their own goals and actions, not trying to resolve their problem for them.


Coaching is an intentional conversation, a journey that should result in something meaningful for the person being coached.  The coach has a significant impact on the results, getting the right coach is key in order to get the biggest return on investment.

The key to coaching is partnership, and the secret ingredient to partnership is belief.

The coaching process.
Although there are almost as many models of coaching as there are coaches, there are four stages that easily communicate the process:

1. Awareness. Coaching challenges the way we think about our thinking so that we can question our conscious and unconscious ways of being.

2. Clarity. Through coaching, we are able to name and define a real issue by focusing on one piece at a time and separating the facts from feelings.

3. Choice. Fearlessly, and without boundaries, coaching allows us to limit our beliefs and explore possibilities for change.

4. Action. We can commit to an energising plan or practice to rewire our way of thinking and behaving that supports our desired way of being.

While many people are able to clearly articulate what they do not want, it takes some effort to be clear about what they want.  The ultimate goal of coaching is supporting people in moving forward, to realise their desired outcome – what they really want. 

The coach is the expert in the process,

the client is the expert in the content.

The benefits of coaching.
The benefits of coaching are wide-ranging and can also positively impact an individual’s career if they are engaging with their coach. This process can help further develop individuals and can even benefit them on a personal level.  Coaching has been known to boost confidence, improve work performance, and build effective communication skills.

  • Thought provoking and increasing awareness –Through the use of powerful questions designed to gain clarity and understanding, challenge limiting beliefs, and inspire new insights, coaches are able to elicit reflective thinking and self-awareness, a key aspect of emotional intelligence, in their clients.
  • A safe place to gain perspective – Having a coach gives the individual a safe space to go and talk through sensitive issues, without feeling held back or intimidated by someone in their own organisation.
  • Increased engagement – When an individual becomes engaged with their workplace, they can contribute more effectively to the team and the organisation. This engagement also helps to increase retention rates and productivity, benefitting their careers as well as their overall organisation.
  • Empowering clients –Because the coaching process is client-centred and driven by the clients, they are in the driver seat and are empowered to visualise, create, and choose the route to get to the destination of their choice.
  • Deeper level learning – Through coaching, an individual can learn more about themselves.
  • Present- and future-focused – Coaching, unlike therapy, is not concerned with something that has happened in the past to cause the client to act in a certain way. Instead, coaching operates on a clean slate, removing the focus on negative emotions or past experiences. It helps clients believe that anything is possible.
  • Holding clients accountable –A key benefit of coaching is the ability for coaches to hold clients accountable in achieving their goals.
  • Celebrating the wins – A coach is an enthusiastic ‘cheerleader’, supporting clients throughout their journey, helping them celebrate the small wins. This helps keep clients motivated and empowered to complete their goals.

 

The power of coaching.

Like any new endeavour, working with a coach can be challenging and even a little scary. But if you’re brave, committed and curious, you’ll find your coaching relationship can be a powerful catalyst to becoming the person you most want to be.

Coaching is a journey, not a destination.

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Because I am a Māmā, and that’s what we do.

Because I am a Māmā, and that’s what we do.

**TRIGGER WARNING** – content may be upsetting to those experiencing this too.
 
This is dedicated to all the Māmās out there, said with love.  I am learning to be vulnerable, and for me this is the pinnacle.
 
Being a parent – the hardest job in the world, let alone being the parent to a child on the spectrum!!!!  
There is great power in sharing our stories, so if this resonates with you, or makes you feel less alone, or you feel called to share some wisdom with me, it is welcomed 😊
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who……
– Have tears in the backs of their eyes, but holding it together in fear of being seen as weak
– Have  tears flowing down their face, because they finally have the courage to cry
– Struggle to ask for help, or are silently screaming for help, but feel like nobody is listening
– Are advocates for their kids, constantly visiting GPs, teachers, principals, psychologist, and paediatricians in the hope for help
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who…….
– Have judged their own parenting skills, and been judged by their parenting skills
– Have gone to parenting class to learn all the coping tools  
– Run to a tight routine because that’s what helps keep the peace
– Wash the same clothes over and over because that’s all their child will wear
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who……
– Are reprimanded by other parents because your child keeps hurting theirs
– Get the sad eyes from the teachers because they have to report the daily ‘incidents’ to you
– Don’t invite people over in fear of the pending eruption that follows
– Wonder how something so small, so tiny, so beautiful can be so angry and so F*#@ing strong
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who……..
– Get punches to their heads or kicks to their faces or bites on their arms from their little mini me street fighters in a state of rage
– Have bruises on their bodies that are a constant reminder of how hard it can be
– Have bruises, not on outside, but on their inside, because they are constantly beating themselves up
– Are like a dog with a bone, fighting to be heard, fighting for something to be done
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who……..
– Are tired, exhausted, empty and feel sorry for themselves
– Have to suck it up and go to work too
– Dream of sleeping all weekend long, uninterrupted, but wake up every day with the strength to keep going
– Who are grateful, celebrate and cherish the beautiful days
 
💗 To all the Māmās out there who……..
– Have damaged property, broken treasures, from the constant uncontrollable rage of their small person
– Worry constantly and feel guilty about the effects this has on their other kids too
– Just want to give up because it’s all too hard, but have sooooo much love, and just keep on giving
– Continue to smile, even though they have a constant lump in their throat, and are dying on the inside
 
💙 To all the Pāpās out there who…….
– Are on this journey too
– Are giving the Māmās a break
– Are fiercely loving their tamariki
– Are supporting their whānau through this
– Realise that we need you too
 
I hear you all, I see you all. I feel you all.
This journey is as much about US as it is about our tamariki.
We need to be the lighthouse, because it can be dark for them and we are there to light their path, to help guide them on their journey through life.
 
**The bruise on my arm has been there almost a week now, I cry every time I look at it, because it reminds me that it is F*#@ing hard at times being a Māma, but I keep soldering on.
Because I am a Māmā, and that’s what we do.
 

#kids #motherhood #mum #mom #mama #parenting #spectrum #streetfighterlol #bethelighthouse 

Nāku noa, nā
Tania 
Coaching – What is Coaching?

Coaching – What is Coaching?

 A GOOD COACH WILL HELP YOU TO GROW. A GREAT COACH WILL HELP YOU TO MAXIMISE YOUR POTENTIAL.

 

A good coach can help you get clearer about your goals and dreams, and what you’re capable of doing in order to achieve them. A good coach can also be a powerfully useful support system on your journey, someone who wants the best for you, but is a neutral third party.

Coaching focusses on the position clients are now and the steps they are willing to take to get where they want to be in the future, recognising that results are a matter of the client’s intentions, choices and actions.  Coaches offer their clients a supportive and motivating environment to explore what they want in life and how they might achieve their aspirations and fulfil their needs.

A coach helps the client to set a goal, to find the best way to achieve the goal and to help reveal the hidden inner potential in a person.

By assisting the client in committing to action and by listening to their experiences, coaching allows the individual the personal space and support they need to grow and develop.

Coaching is not telling people what to do, but giving them a chance to examine what they are doing.

Research into positive psychology, including emotional intelligence, and how the brain works, has given us great insights into the ways we can support a human being to grow, to realise their potential and to create positive outcomes in their own lives. We now understand that by increasing our emotional awareness, deepening our thinking about our own thinking and focusing on what is serving us well by, utilising our strengths and interests, we can influence and even choose a better future.

From this research, coaches have a strong base to support their clients to heighten their awareness of themselves. Observing or noticing the way the client thinks; their habits; their emotional responses (or lack of); acknowledging the clients’ own strengths and interests; and the dispositions they are applying to their lives that are serving them well; and those that are not serving them currently. The coach actively and empathetically listens, providing constructive feedback and uses powerful questions to co-create awareness with the client (social constructivist theory.) The coach holds true to the belief that the client already has the innate power and potential to solve their own problem and realise their own desires.

HIRING A COACH OR A MENTOR CAN MAKE A SIGNIFICANT DIFFERENCE TO YOUR PERFORMANCE.  NO DOUBT ABOUT IT.

I would definitely not be in the position I am today, without the support of the many coaches and mentors I have invested in, for both personal and professional development. A great coach will help you to ‘Maximise Your Potential’!

The great benefit of coaching is that you are very likely to see quick, positive results as an outcome. This is because coaching is participative and people tend to learn and adopt new habits more easily when they are actively engaged in the learning process.
The process is entirely devoted to you – your issues and the attainment of your new behaviour goals.

By constantly doing better you practice good habits and the more you practice – the more natural it becomes to automatically change and improve your behaviours.

 

The benefits of coaching include:

  • Develop a deeper self-awareness
  • Opening your eyes to your limitless potential
  • Increased confidence
  • Greater ownership and responsibility
  • Increased openness to personal learning and development
  • Increased ability to identify solutions
  • Increased productivity – improvement in individual’s performance, targets and goals
  • A sense of empowerment, achievement and success
  • Improvement of specific skills or behaviour

“The coach is the expert in the process, the client is the expert in the content”

The coaches’ role is to be an expert in the process of coaching – allowing the client to flow in and out of their own story. Acting as a guide the coach invites discovery.  Supporting and empowering the client to bring their thoughts to a conscious level. The coach then supports the client to deepen and clarify their understanding of themselves. Growing an emerging understanding of their own individual thinking and behaviour that acknowledges the clients’ context and life experiences (Bronfenbrenner’s ecological model.)  This holistic view of the individual creates relevance and motivation for the client as it acknowledges our basic human need to be ‘seen and heard.’ (attachment theory)
The coach marries together the art and the science by harnessing the power of the clients’ mind, utilising the clients thinking and learning style to focus their thoughts, identify their core values – bringing the unconscious ‘why’ of the clients thinking to a conscious level. Once thinking is at a conscious level a person is able to make choices and decisions about this thinking. This helps a client understand their personal way of generating solutions (meta-cognition).

Inside this holistic coaching conversation is meaningful learning that allows the client to align their actions with their thinking (creating clarity) so they can move boldly forward. The client is pro-active in identifying possibilities, creating their own fulfilling solutions, goals, and actions. Leading their own learning and creating the future they desire.

In summary, professional coaching has a powerful ability to enhance human potential because it entails a mix of science and human learning and behaviours. It promotes self-awareness, acknowledges the clients’ situation, optimises the power of the human brain and empowers the client to develop thinking and solutions that they are connected with, personally.

Coaching is a journey, not a destination.

Like anything new, working with a coach can appear to be challenging and even a little scary at times. But if you’re brave, committed and curious, you’ll find your coaching relationship can be a powerful catalyst to becoming the person you most want to be.

You don’t have to feel ready or confident (that is part of the coaching process, to get you there) you just have to have the desire, and we build the rest together.

Coaching you to help you achieve your dreams, not only builds a structure that allows you to make money AND have freedom, it provides the framework to have you showing up as the best and most aligned version of you for YOU.

We want to explore your REAL message, to have you creating from a place of real passion and flow, to attract what you want in your life. Changing one area of your life ALWAYS impacts on other areas – so it definitely is an investment in you.  CREATE THE LIFE YOU LOVE.

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Turn Your Pain Into Power

Turn Your Pain Into Power

Turn Your Pain Into Power

Let’s be honest, we all have skeletons in our closet, but most of us are scared shitless to let them out.  For fear of judgement, for fear of guilt, for fear of embarrassment, for fear of putting others in a place of being called out for what they really are.  Whatever the reasons may be, those skeletons stay locked tightly away in the closet.  Continuing to eat us up on the inside, continuing to trigger us, continuing to affect our relationships with self and others, continuing to hold us back.  It is a sad but true reality for so many of us.

Turn Your Pain Into Power

The thing is, we should be using our story to free ourselves from the weight that quite often weighs us down and holds us back. We should be utilising our voice to not only help ourselves, but to also recognise that is there is a massive power in telling our story to initiate change, to literally change someone’s life, and to add value to your own life through doing so.

We all have a story. Your story is not worse than mine, nor is it better. You see, we shouldn’t be comparing stories and compartmentalising them into categories of better or worse. It is important to remember it is OUR story and it has helped to shape us into the people we are today. It has helped to shape our values, our beliefs, our morals. We are the product of our story.  Be that right or wrong, we are the product of our story.

In November 2019, I took the stage for the first time and told my story. The good, the bad, and the ugly. A story that I had locked away for so many years, because of the fear of people perceiving me for something other than what I had worked so hard to create.  Perfectionism is a word that I would use to describe the woman that I strived to be.  And I am sure, if you are reading this and you know me, then you would agree with that word too.  Other words that come to mind are strong, powerful, relentless, demanding.  My family would say I am a bossy b!+@#

Turn Your Pain Into Power

The person I am now is sooooo different to the person that stood on that stage. I am now living and breathing my true self, and on a journey to share the message far and wide.  I turned my pain into power, the power to help me heal, and the power to help others heal too!

The words that come to mind now when I describe myself are strong, powerful, caring, giving, loving, genuine, kind, generous, mindful and in touch with my emotions. 
My family would now say I am WOKE!

It is time for us to stop sweeping things under the carpet, it is time for us to stop wearing the shame, the shame that is NOT OURS TO CARRY.

Turn Your Pain Into Power

My challenge to you, is to tell YOUR STORY! Find someone that you trust to listen to you without judgement, who will hold space for you and allow you to step into your true self and embrace the freedom that telling your story will create for you. In the hope that you can relieve yourself from the burden of carrying that weight any longer, free your mind, free your body and free your soul.

When I am presenting I often refer to the term “Be the lighthouse” I live and breathe by this motto.
Throughout my life, during my darkest days, I look back and remember there always being someone that came along, in the right place, at the right time to shine their light and guide me through the darkness.  I will be forever grateful for the unconditional love and support I received from those that ‘saved me’ from the depths of despair. 
So now it is my mission to “Be the lighthouse”, to guide others through their darkness, in their time of need, and I will continue to encourage others to do the same.

Turn Your Pain Into Power

If you haven’t heard already, Siobhan Samuel and I created Real Talk NZ.  The Real Talk platform has been created to motivate, encourage and inspire others.  To show that it doesn’t matter where you come from, it’s about where you CHOOSE to go.

Our tagline is Real Talk. Real People. Real Stories.

We have had some incredible wāhine share the stage.  They turned their pain into power, to support the kaupapa of sharing with our audience – it doesn’t matter where you come from, it’s about where you CHOOSE to go.

We had our O.G Wellington Real Talk wāhine, to which I will be eternally grateful for.  It really was like a spiritual awakening that night, you could feel the wairua in the room, guiding us safely on our journey.

  • Makaia Carr
  • Summer Brons
  • Greer Perenara
  • Larissa Carlson – The Leo Style
  • Elise Niu

And more recently we had our Tauranga Real Talk wāhine, which continue to drive our kaupapa forward.

  • Nicola ‘Nix’ Adams
  • Summer Brons
  • Vanessa Goodson
  • La’sasha McCutcheon

We are now in the process of planning our Real Talk events for 2021, so stay tuned!

Web: www.realtalknz.co.nz
Facebook: @realtalknz
Instagram: @real_talk_nz

Real Talk – Tell YOUR story and change YOUR life!

Turn Your Pain Into Power

Her Story

Her Story.

One of my clients wrote this for ME!  
…Or was it for HER? 
…Or is it for YOU?

Her story.

” She’s older now.  More fragile than in her younger years.  Well, physically at least.  Maybe even her heart is more fragile, she’s unwilling to part with all of it, even the broken parts, just yet.

Every time it has been broken, it’s taken her longer to put back together.  Longer to fill those gaps left by the aches.  Each of those aches and breaks, broken by one or two of the same people… Yet, every time they’ve broken her heart, her power has become stronger.

Her will: stronger. 

Her mind: stronger. 

She didn’t know that in the beginning of course, she just thought she was finding a way to get out of her situation.  She didn’t know this was destiny’s way of gearing her up for the biggest fight of her life. 

Starting out like a super hero would’ve been too easy. 

It would mean that she already came equipped with at least a costume and weapon, a trusted advisor and even a cohort or gang… which would also imply that she had deathly enemies waiting in the shadows for her to let her guard down and launch an attack.  She had none of these things.  Not even a real enemy who might’ve wanted to “kill her”.  No.  Instead, she experienced assholes and asshole situations – which just built her up for the fight – and yet through it all, she maintained her poise.

Her grace. Like a Queen she was.  She didn’t let her guard down.  She quietly worked on building up her courage, building up her resilience, building up her money… She gave herself and her heart, the home, safety and security she had been cheated of time, and again, to heal.

Here, in her haven.  She encouraged herself.  Loved herself. And let her badass shine through. “

- Anonymous Client

NZHerald - How Kiwi mum, Tania Carr, went from living in a state house to being a CEO

NZHerald – How Kiwi mum, Tania Carr, went from living in a state house to being a CEO

“When Tania Carr drove from the bottom of the North Island to start a new life in Auckland at 21, she never knew it’d lead to a blossoming six-figure corporate career.

As a solo mum with no qualifications, but searing passion, Tania went on to manage multi-million-dollar companies. The mum of three, now a business entrepreneur, is a Kiwi success story.

But things weren’t always so glistening for the Titahi Bay local. “All my life, I’ve worked damn hard and built a really good reputation in executive roles,” Tania says. “But I used to want to hide my background in case it affected how people saw me. Now, I know it’s all part of my story, and I want other women to hear it.”

Tania, 43, was raised in Cannon’s Creek, Porirua, in a state house with five younger sisters. Gang members came and went, and there were regularly parties and violence, and it wasn’t abnormal for her father to serve prison time.

“I lived in that whole low socio-economic environment with drugs and alcohol,” she recalls. “I saw things no child ever should, like women dragged by their hair over gravel roads and bottles smashed over heads.”

“I use to think it’s the way you’re raised that determines your personality, but it’s not.”

Part of the trauma Tania now speaks openly about on her podcast, The Coach Carr Channel, is childhood sexual abuse. She explains, “It’s taken me a while to accept that some of the uglier sides of my story needed be told too because every experience has shaped who I am today. I could’ve been another statistic, and I want women to see they don’t have to be.”

From an early age, Tania dreamed of escaping her hometown for bigger things. “I used to sit on the back porch and pray my heart out for some kind of miracle,” she shares. “I’d try and telepathically communicate with the neighbours, hoping somebody would ask if everything was ok.”

She left home for the first time at 15, escaping her bedroom window one night. “My boyfriend’s aunty knew some of what was going on at home and said I could go there. That was my olive branch.”

But gang associates soon started door knocking to find her and so Tania moved on, accepting an offer to stay with a local woman trying to make it as a singer. “She needed a live-in babysitter, so I took care of her kids. We ate potato skins I’d peeled because that’s all we had. We were as poor as anything, but at least I was safe.”

A year later, at sixteen, Tania found out she was pregnant.

“I had my beautiful daughter Shaianne, now 25, but things with her dad eventually ended,” Tania tells. “I got into some abusive relationships and thought, ‘I can either go down the same track and be like the environment I grew up in, or I can choose to provide my daughter with a better life’.” She enrolled in a business computer diploma at 18.

“Over summer, people on my course asked what part-time job I’d get, and I hadn’t ever thought about it,” she laughs. “My parents didn’t work, and I was like, ‘Ok, is this what you do?'”

She landed her first job at a women’s fashion retailer chain, as a casual. “I just fell in love with retail, and when they offered me a permanent assistant manager’s position, I left to study,” she enthuses. “I learnt so much, and the environment shaped me as a person. It taught me right from wrong, and I thrived.”

At 21, a colleague asked Tania if she wanted to move to Auckland with her. “My work transferred me to a huge beast of a store, and our house was on the other side of Auckland,” she remembers. “Shaianne and I got up at five in the morning to commute, and a taxi picked her up for school, which enabled me to work. I cranked up the credit card with the rides and all my gas.”

Then the company made Tania store manager, followed by regional training manager and later, regional manager for Wellington. By mid-20 Tania, “the little girl from Cannon’s Creek”, was national manager for all of New Zealand, paying off her credit cards and saving thousands of dollars for her first home.

She left after 10 years, before being snapped up as regional manager for three high-end jewellery brands. “I had a lot of control and worked there for nine years. Then I decided it was time to have a baby.”

Throughout her pregnancy, Tania relished the idea of being a stay-home mum, who’d take her baby to pilates and enjoy coffee dates. “Man was I wrong!” says Tania, who developed postnatal depression after the birth of her daughter Ryleigh, four. “I had a really challenging baby, put on a tonne of weight and just didn’t cope. I’d shut the curtains and pretend I wasn’t home when people came over and spent days crying.”
When she welcomed her son Kayden, two, Tania was still in a dark hole and admits, “I’d completely lost myself.”

It was a visit from her sister-in-law, leading social media influencer Makaia Carr, which helped Tania get back on her feet.

 

“Makaia was worried and said, ‘Come on, we need to get you back!’ and over a wine I told her about my dream to run a recruitment business. She said, ‘Well, let’s do it!’ and after she left, I stayed up brainstorming and planning. I felt my business mind coming back and was so excited!”

Over two years later, Tania is now the owner of The Recruitment Hub NZ and her newest venture, The Coaching Hub, having qualified as a transformative coach.

“I’ve absolutely found myself again, and my work aligns with my passion, which is helping people. I use to question why I was working so hard, but now I understand I did that groundwork so I could be here.”

This Saturday, Tania will share her story at Real Talk, an event she co-founded with friend Siobhan Samuel. Taking place in Wellington and streaming live online, it includes stories from a panel of other inspiring women including Greer Perenara, wife of All Black TJ Perenara, and Makaia Carr.

“The whole kaupapa is if we can change one life in the audience, we’ve done our job,” Tania smiles. “I started healing when I began telling my story, and that’s the message I want to send out. I’m proof that regardless of where you come from, it’s where you choose to go.”

DO YOU NEED HELP?

If you’re in danger now:

 

• Phone the police on 111 or ask neighbours or friends to ring for you.
• Run outside and head for where there are other people.
• Scream for help so that your neighbours can hear you.
• Take the children with you.
• Don’t stop to get anything else.
• If you are being abused, remember it’s not your fault. Violence is never okay.

Where to go for help or more information:

• Ngā Wai a Te Tūī Māori and Indigenous Research Centre and the New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse are partnering to provide information on preventing and responding to family, whānau and sexual violence during COVID-19.
• Shine, free national helpline 9am- 11pm every day – 0508 744 633 www.2shine.org.nz
• Women’s Refuge: Free national crisis line operates 24/7 – 0800 refuge or 0800 733 843 www.womensrefuge.org.nz
• Shakti: Providing specialist cultural services for African, Asian and middle eastern women and their children. Crisis line 24/7 0800 742 584
• It’s Not Ok: Information line 0800 456 450 www.areyouok.org.nz

Credit – NZHerald – 28 July 2020

Do You Choose Happiness?

Do You Choose Happiness?

Will we ever be truly happy?  We convince ourselves that life will be better after we grow up, when we meet our significant other, when we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we get frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough, and life will be so much easier when they are.

After that, we get frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. Surely we’ll be happy when they are out of that stage, right?

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when we get that dream job, or upgrade our car,  or when we’re able to go on that tropical holiday,  or when we retire.

The truth is, there is no better time to be happy than right now!

Covid has come into our lives and really tested us, it has made us re-evaluate what is important to us. It has pushed us to our limits, out of our zone of genius, and in to our comfort zones…..that we need to get ourselves out of again.

Your life will always be filled with challenges, and sometimes you will feel like you’ve just overcome a massive hurdle only to be confronted with yet another!

If you can accept and acknowledge this, be grateful for what you have, and decide to be happy anyway, then you are winning at life!

So, stop waiting until you lose weight, until you gain weight, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Monday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until Summer, until Winter, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink…. there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Treasure every moment that you have, and remember that time waits for no one!

And for those that need to hear this…… you CAN’T rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth.  Only you can be responsible for that.

If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen.

You will be truly happy when you accept yourself for being… well, you!  That’s right, you will be happy when you accept yourself for being YOU! 

Completely – the good, the bad and the ugly.

Stop trying to live your life to impress your mother, your father, compete with your sister or your brother.  Stop trying to live a certain lifestyle because you think someone else wants you to live that way, or you are trying to keep up with the Jones’!

I love this saying;

“Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Work like you don’t need money, love like you’ve never been hurt,and dance like no one’s watching.”

 

Happiness is a choice, and it’s YOUR choice.

So, what will you choose?

-Tania

Tania's Top Tips for Coaches in Business

Tania’s Top Tips for Coaches in Business

Maximise YOUR Business

There are a million and one resources out there to help you establish a successful business. Here are some tips and tricks that have helped ME along the way, and I credit my success to the following:

 

  1. BE YOU! YOUR UNIQUE SELF

People buy from people, right? When clients are looking for a coach, they are looking for someone that is the ‘right fit’ for them. You need to be your unique self so that your clients know exactly what they are to expect from you. If you try ‘faking it ‘til you make it’ you will be found out pretty quickly in this business. Word of mouth is a huge marketing tool, and if you are being your unique self, you will attract and retain your ideal clients, and your business with continue to blossom and grow!

 

  1. YOUR GOALS NEED TO BE FRONT OF MIND

I believe in the power of positive thinking and manifestation. I reckon a lot of success comes down to your ability to set goals and KPI’s and to constantly review them so they are ALWAYS front of mind.

FIRST, set goals for your business starting with long term goals, then break it down to medium and short-term goals that will help you to get you there.

Don’t just write a business plan at the start of the financial year, then file it away until the next financial year, review your goals regularly. Know exactly what it is that you want to achieve and put actions and strategy in place to make sure it happens. Chunk it down into quarterly goals, then monthly, and then break it down to weekly to ensure you are heading toward your goal.

If you need a coach to help to set your business goals and hold you accountable: BOOK ME.

 

  1. CREATE A STRONG BRAND

Have a recognisable brand, from your logo, your colour palette, your content, your message and YOU if you are selling YOU!

You need to market yourself, and I know some of us cringe when we think about this, but it needs to be done! Otherwise you are having a party, but not inviting anyone! What kind of party is that?!

If you need help to create a STRONG BRAND, check out our branding packages.

 

  1. KNOW YOUR TARGET MARKET

You NEED a well-defined target market, so you are marketing to YOUR ideal clients.
You will learn very quickly that you can burn the candle at both ends trying to be everything to everybody. Focus on what you are good at, and how you can use your strengths to add value to your clients’ lives.

If you’d like to discuss your niche, and review your target market, you can book a FREE strategy session with me: BOOK ME.

 

5.   BUILD RELATIONSHIPS 

I certainly am a people person, I LOVE genuinely connecting with people (some more than others, lol). I suppose this is why I love being a coach, it’s a perfect combo.

When I first went into business for myself, it certainly was a lonely gig, so I joined in lots of local networking opportunities with like-minded business owners, so I found the real sense of belonging that I was missing. I also met some amazing business partners and strategists who to this day still help me with implementing my crazy ideas and continue growing my business. It makes the world a much better place when you have awesome people in your corner.

Another thing I strongly recommend is to collaborate with those who have strengths in areas that you may struggle with. This has been another integral part of helping me to grow my business.

If you’re interested in having a conversation about how we can help each other, I would love to chat – Tania, 0210695778

 

  1. SOCIAL MEDIA IS YOUR BEST FRIEND

You need to have an online presence! You may not have had one before, and you may not want to, but it is integral to the success of your business to have a social media presence. You need to put yourself out there. I post at least once a day on all my social media platforms, and often if I have a promo running, I will post 3 times a day. It is very unlikely that anyone will see all 3 posts, so you never have to worry about spamming people.

If you need a coach to help get you established in this area, and confident in producing quality content for your brand. I can help: BOOK ME.

 

  1. GET COMFORTABLE WITH FILMING YOURSELF

Trust me, I know how daunting the thought of this is to some of you who have never done it before. I have been there!

I actually had my own coach guide and support me through my first round of video content, I was scared as f*#! of being judged, and I put so much pressure on myself to get it perfect. Now, I can film myself anywhere, anytime and I actually enjoy it!

Your potential clients will start to form a relationship with you from your videos, they will be sussing you out, analysing whether or not you will be the “right fit” for them.

If you need a coach to help get you comfortable in this area, and smashing out your own fabulous video content, it would be my pleasure to coach you through the tips and tricks to creating content, filming, editing and producing high-quality videos. BOOK ME.

 

  1. HAVE AN AWESOME WEBSITE

This certainly helps with credibility!

I was very lucky to have an awesome effective and affordable and website built for me.
It’s also important to constantly update your website as your business evolves, as your offers grow.
Another awesome function I have is an online booking system, I love how easy it is for my clients to book and pay online for the services they require, it’s so efficient and streamlined.

YOU can have an AWESOME new website for your business too, for $1597! Click now to get started.

 

  1. KEEP INVESTING IN YOURSELF

The person I am today, is sooooooooo different to the person I was a year ago! I have been fortunate enough to invest in my own training and development. I used to be one of those people who would say “I can’t afford that”, “I don’t have the money for that” now I’m the one who says “How can I make that happen”, “How can I move money around, so I can do that training”?!

You WILL get left behind if you keep doing what you’ve always done. Times are changing – rapidly and we need to move with the times. When you run your own business there is NO ROOM FOR SHRINKING VIOLETS. Get out of your comfort zone, and the more you do it, the easier it gets.

 

  1. STOP TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING YOURSELF!

When you start your business you’ll be doing everything yourself. You’re the CEO, Finance Director, Operations Manager, Secretary, Marketing Manager, and every other role needed to make your business work.

You’ll be learning new skills, new ways of thinking and new ways of being. It’s exciting AND it’s a big challenge. However, there comes a time when you will literally burn yourself out, especially if you are doing stuff that you don’t necessarily enjoy doing.

I’m in a position now where I value my time, and if someone can do the job faster and more efficient than I can, then I am going to pay them for their contribution. It’s a win/win, especially if it’s allowing my more quality time to spend with my kids

As long as you run your own business, there will ALWAYS be more to do than time allows, so you MUST learn to prioritise and focus on what YOU are good at and what will generate money.

If you’d like to discuss your business and reviewing YOUR priorities, you can book a FREE strategy session with me: BOOK ME.

 

  1. ALL ABOUT THAT TESTIMONIAL LIFE

Don’t take my word for it, listen to what my clients are saying!

Your potential clients want to know how you can make a difference in their lives, they want to hear the positive stories from real people.  They want to hear how you have made an impact on others.
Whenever you can, you should be asking for testimonials from all those clients you have helped along the way. This is GOLD.

Don’t be afraid to blow your own trumpet, you are AWESOME at what you do, so let everyone know how awesome you are!

 

  1. GET COMFORTABLE WITH MAKING MONEY

We all have to earn a crust as the bills don’t pay themselves.

Yes, when we are starting out, we do A LOT of practise runs for FREE, and we may have that self doubt that creeps in and we need to keep it at bay. BUT we need to draw a line in the sand and start to value OUR time. Most of us have years of life and business experience, and some of us have invested substantial amounts of money in ourselves to get us to this point, so there comes a time when we need to see a return on our investment.

The purpose of running a business is to make money, and to make money from helping people is such a fantastic reward, so be PROUD of that.

If you’d like to discuss your money mindset, and review your financial goals, you can book a FREE strategy session with me: BOOK ME.

 

WRAP-UP

No-one said it was going to be easy. But if you implement some of the tips and tricks I’ve mentioned above, you are sure to see some wins!

Tania Carr – tania@thecoachinghub.co.nz
Website – www.thecoachinghub.co.nz
Instagram – @thecoachinghubnz
Facebook – @TheCoachingHubNZ

 

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